Your Final Expense Plans

When you begin to show visible signs of physical aging, it is natural to your family to offer to “be there” and help to provide for your needs.

However, thoughts of who will be responsible for your final expenses may occur to you.

For example, you may be wondering if you will be incurring the final expense in the event of your death.

It is never easy to discuss the topic of dying, but when family dynamics increase the difficulty of having this conversation, some people feel apprehensive and uncomfortable even mentioning any aspect of the subject.

The following suggestions should help you to have an objective, non-biased discussion:

Plan the Place, Time, and Invitation List
 
If you are fortunate enough to have siblings, perhaps they have already broached the subject of your final expense life insurance.

If not, invite them and their spouses to join you for this discussion.

Explain that your intent in having the meeting is to make sure your final wishes are honored.

In addition to the immediate family, it may be helpful to invite a close family friend or clergy member to encourage respectful communication.

Young children should not be brought to this meeting.

Most of all, be ready to compromise.

Even agreeing on a date, time and place that everyone finds mutually convenient can become controversial.

Try to be as flexible as possible with the available time slots.

Furthermore, try to arrange to have the meeting in a place where it is unlikely that there will be too many interruptions.

Since there is a need for concentration, it is not a good idea to have this discussion during dinner or in a restaurant.

Research the Relevant Facts
 
Prepare for the meeting by doing research.

Learn the facts that you believe your family need to know so that they can make an informed decision.

Naturally, most people do not want to leave their loved ones with the burden of having to finance their final expense.

During the discussion, mention that your final expense policy will provide an easy way to help pay for burial expenses.

Whatever information you discuss should be restricted to the stated topic of the beneficial aspects of having a final expense plan.

The other facts you plan to present at the meeting should include an itemized list of expected final expenses.

Be sure to mention the typical fees for embalmment, interment, flowers, and the other services that funeral directors provide.

Your family may not even be aware that even a modest burial casket is expensive.

Avoid Emotional Conversations
 
Although feeling apprehensive about the need to have this talk is perfectly natural, your goal is to minimize any disagreements.

The conversation is likely to become emotional if you are not open to answering their questions.

In order to have a productive conversation, be respectful and keep the tone tactful.

Remember that any discussion of past emotional issues will likely hamper the outcome.

Be sure to stay on the subject of final planning, and even though you may not like the answers you receive, it is still best not to outwardly criticize or judge them. Everyone is raw!

If you sense disapproval, please just disregard the impression that they do not respect your life experiences.

Keep in mind that the goal of the conversation is to honor your final wishes.

It is necessary to know what they are and how to make them as affordable as possible.

This may not be the easiest conversation to have with your family, but it is one of the most important and selfless things you can do for them.

Ultimately, you should be able to give them the gift of knowing you will carry out their final wishes.